Hey there my friend! It has been a short while since I kept you updated but I’m SO very busy it’s not even funny J (well it is actually). I received several questions from readers and people around me which I would like to put up here so you also will have a bigger impression of me, how I look at things and the values and purposes that I live by! Here goes:
So, why did you put up this BLOG, what’s your purpose with it?
Well, I put this up so people can maybe get inspired to take some action and go out to shape up their lives a bit. I want people to see what I am going trough so they can relate to it and see that they are not “the only one” and I want them to see my growth. I won’t write huge and difficult posts on here as I want ALL people to be able to read my posts and feel related to what I write. So everything here is real and simple.
This one is interesting 
Based on the movie “The 40 year old virgin”, If a guy who lives in those circumstances and with that kind of mindset comes to you for help, what are the chances of him becoming a “Pickup Artist” and how long of an intensive training would he have to go through?
Haha, yeah well, this question is not so easy to answer “by me”, we would have to ask that person the following question, “how fast are you going to implement everything into your system?”. That anyone can become great in the “Social Arts” is a fact! Look at all the big guys in the scene who used to be complete “nerds” back in the days!? I can teach him a whole lot and I will be able to give him A LOT of things to think about but that person will actually have to implement everything and based on his personal successes he will do this fast…or take more time. I have seen guys shooting up really fast and I have seen some that took more time to get to the next level…and yes…unfortunately…I also see guys that are still there where they have started off in the beginning, they just don’t want to or aren’t able to push themselves further because of “possible personal reasons”.
Working with “Personal Self Development” what are you currently “working on” when it comes to yourself?
Well, at the moment I am doing a lot of reading, I’m currently plowing through several books about “Coaching, Social Psychology and Human Nature”. I have this hunger for knowledge and I go through anything that will help me grow and help others on a deeper level.
To overcome “approach anxiety”, what would be more important, Confidence or Skill?
In my opinion confidence would be more important here, you don’t need any skills to “approach” another person, you just need to go over there and start an interaction with them, which you will do when you are confident. However, how do you gain confidence? By practicing “A SKILL”, Confidence is something that comes when you are certain about yourself, about who you are…about your skills. So a good advice here would probably be “Go and practice a certain skill to get confident in whatever it is that you want to do”. (If you need help with this, you can always contact me: rickdutch@gmail.com)
Do affirmations really work?
Well, honestly…I’m not really sure but I used to do A LOT of affirmations or “incantations” which is another version of it. I got more confidence and yes I implemented a whole new belief system into my brain but I did a complete internal make over! Let me explain this a bit deeper. I didn’t only do the affirmations, I also went out there ON MY OWN (this will boost your confidence) I implemented things I learnt FAST, I read A LOT, i basically did everything I could to insert a whole new belief into my head so the whole combination of everything I did worked…yeah definitely! Affirmations and Incantations are being used since forever! The Roman army back in the days used them, even now the U.S. army is famous for the using following affirmation “yet do I walk in the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil…etc.” So yeah I think the power of affirmations is worldwide known and something I suggest everyone should work with if they want to speed up the implementation of a new belief system.
Body language, facial expressions and vocal intonations represent over 75% of our communication, do you think we are able to “seduce” a person without speaking the same language?
YES! I don’t “think” but I “know” this for a fact I wrote about my experiences in this matter and already post it. But I would like to point out a certain exercise anyways you can try to test this: “When you walk on the street or when you are in any public place basically, you scan or look around and try to make eye contact with someone of your liking. Then when your eyes lock into each other I would like you to think you are making passionate love to that person…now see what happens ” I went into this a bit deeper in my article about “The Power of Eye contact & facial expressions”
So, this was part 1 of the “Q & A” and I will post the 2nd part when u guys send me more questions (I got a couple already but I would like for you to send me some more) Hopefully this have given you some food for thought.
See you soon my friend!
Rick Dutch.
