Rick Dutch

Ok, so i received this amazing question from a guy “J.T.”, who was wondering how I deal with things like “What if you open a girl, and she doesn’t respond, and acts as if your not there” or “what if you get amogged – what if you get fucked with by the Alfa male of the group”

Well, here are several answers that came to mind after thinking about what made me hold a positive mindset.

I started working on strengthening my Innergame over time by taking actions that “put me out there”

Now what do i mean with that…well, like for an example – 1st, I have been Muay Thai boxing for a serious amount of time now, not to brag about it but i have had enough time to spar – or play fight if you like to call it that way, with guys, smaller than me…but also BIGGER as me, like the tipical gorilla type of guys, big, muscular, no neck, realy strong…the tipical Silver Back, you know the type!

Now what has this got to do with getting amogged, well, lets just say, that i now KNOW, deep in my core, that yes, if shit hits the fan and the guy would like to hit me for an example..i will probably fly across the room as i am not a big guy at all, im a leight wheight, 73 kilo’s. However, he would have to hit me 1st…an i am not the guy that would let that happen just like that. I know, through 1st hand EXPERIENCE, that i am faster than him…and i KNOW…trough 1st hand experience…that i WILL be able to knock him out.

Not that i am going to do this…im the last one to start a bar brawl, i hate fights, im very friendly…but i AM confident about my strenghts and my capabilities. So even in the presence of a BIGGER guy than me, my whole fysiology will still exhude…that relaxing and confident energy…i am not easely intimidated by bigger guys, or by guys that seem or act as an ALFA.

2nd – I went out…ALONE…a LOT of times…now this too, creates balls as there will be nobody backing you up, nobody to wing you, nobody to talk to if your NOT in set and, more importantly…nobody to push your state up when it goes down…

It all depends on YOU!

When going out, i HAD to go in and talk to people in order to not look as that stupid weird guy standing alone with his drink in the corner. So while crashing and burning, i developped a mental strength that kept me going for several hours having fun beeing alone…but meeting other people!

And let me tell you, that now, i can go to bars, pubs, clubs, whatever y myself…and just meet up with people i already know…so im never alone in there anyways…it took me some time to build to that point, but i did it! And that strenthens your innergame aswell.

Now 3rdly – I created a “positive mental attitude” which is a realy important thing to have!!! (SO important its not even funny)

Like, when some one around me, for an example, interperts something as “beeing shitty” or “negative” and go’s “Ah, fuck, this and that happend and it sucks so hard!” and get into this negative mindset, i ask them “well, what POSITIVE thing have you learnt from it?” then at 1st they still go all negative and go “yeah well, that this and that sucks ofcourse!” but i wont buy that…so i ask them again “what POSITIVE THING…have you learnt from it” and then they come up with one or 2 anwsers and i tell them “see…so it has been an amazing thing that just happend, you learnt something valuable that will make you better prepared for something alike in the future…you gained strenght…your smarter now!” and right away you will see the expressions in their face change from something that might come of as “stressed out” at 1st to something that looks “at ease” in the end.

Or something i ALWAYS tell people, i almost PREACH it is when they encounter a “problem” and talk about that they have “this and that problem” i refrase the thing for them by saying “well, try to look at it as A CHALLENGE”

Almost instantly, you will see them look as if they are thinking about what the hell your talking about! Then, and it seriously works like magic, they get this relaxed look on their face and go “damn…when i look at it that way…i feel the need to go and resolve it right away as it feels so much more positive!”

And that is also what i do myself, i try to learn from everything that happens, try to take the most positive things from realy negative SHIT that goes on…also in my life right now as im writing this (everybody has stuff going on…i am not an exeption). I dont have ANY problems, i have “Challenges” and a challenge is something i WILL overcome, one way or the other! It drives me to seek out oppportunities, to look for ways to make things possible, to see “doors opening” instead of “doors closing” and i dont have a solution…i will shove my foot in the door before it shuts…as i am sure that something will come to mind before it closes.

Where people come up with reasons why NOT to do something…i come up with ways and reasons why i SHOULD do it! “When you can’t…you must…when you must…YOU CAN!”

To give you an example:

“Hey…i cant do this or that because i dont have money…i really want to but yeah…the money…” is just another way of saying “Yeah, my brain is conditioned in a way that it keeps me from doing literally anything as it comes up with reasons why NOT to do something” While I myself would find a way to get that amount of money to do that what i want to do! NO EXEPTIONS! (and i dont mean i will go out stealing or doing something that doensnt allign with my values)

Anthony Robbins said this ones, to me personally…in 1 of his audio programs “People are not lazy, they simply have impotent goals”

Well personaly…i have rock hard and rock solid BONERS of goals!!! And they are so AMAZING that i NEED to live a life filled with “positivity, courage, challenge overcomming solutions, a positive mindset…A STRONG INNERGAME” My goals depend on them…my visions…Sienna, my daughter…MY LIFE!!!

So, now, to come to real answer your question…i don’t ever get amogged…because i dont give anybody the opportunity to push me around. My appearance has this “I AM NOT EASELY INTIMIDATED” energy. I am confident, i feel GREAT, i LOVE my life, i am used to overcomming challenges, i am a PASSIONATE MAN and i shall not be touched by other peoples negative energy!

Shittests…i dont get them…they don’t exist in my reality, if a woman behaves a certain way…it doesn’t realy affect me, at all! As i have been trough so much already that whatever a woman can throw at me doesn’t affect me anymore.

If anyone can give me a good enough reason let me and my state get manhandled by anothers person’s crap and let it fuck with my amazing feeling…i will actually considder it, but in the last 5 years…people have tried…and failed…with comming up with something good! Because there is “NO REASON WHY YOU SHOULD FEEL “NEGATIVE” BECAUSE OF AN AMOG OR A SHIT TEST”

So, this is how i deal with it “in a nutshell” an i hope you can relate to some things and take your learning points from them and use them to your benefits.

J.T. Thank you for your question, i hope this answer provides you with that what you are looking for.

Good luck creating a strong innergame yourself, and if you have any questions, feel free to contact me ok!

Rick Dutch!

Hey you! whats up? Today i want to talk to you about “Appoaching random strangers” and how to feel comfortable about it!

I know that a lot of people let their past experiences stand in the way of their future success. They let themselves be held back because they have bad references to certain things and don’t want to feel the pain they have been trough, which is actually very logical.
However, living a life that doesn’t satisfy you…may hurt…and it can hurt a lot, I know because I had my share. So, you have linked negative feelings to a certain idea or action and they hold you from making any progression because you don’t know what’s going on and don’t know what you should do about it.

Now think of the following, “If I continue this way…without taking any action to change the course of my life, how will I look back at my life when I’m old?” I mean if you don’t do anything about it and just ignore that what needs attention, yes, you might live a happy life I mean, just act as if that thing isn’t there…that should do the trick! Right?!
No it doesn’t… ”That what is inside and expressed will set you free…that what is inside and kept imprisoned will eat you alive!” in other words, you HAVE to do something about your fear or it otherwise it will fuck you up!!! (just to use some clear words lol). So either way, you know that if you want to become stronger you have to face your fears and do something about it!
But you know what…you can take small steps to get out of your comfort zone if smacking your “challenge” right in the face and go full throttle to overcome it is a too big of step for you. Small steps WILL do! As long as you do something and see that what you do is working! You will create positive references to something that has frightened beforehand, and that’s the way you overcome your fears!

Old Me, just before an approach!

Now I have had the exact same challenge’s and I want to share with you a couple ways that might provide a solution for you as well as it did for me.
Like, I wanted to become more social and make it a natural thing for myself to talk to other people. And to go in directly and to start a conversation just like that was so far outside of my reality that I couldn’t do it AT ALL! I was the guy who was nervous beyond belief when I even thought of doing an “in direct approach Now I do direct approaches and basically don’t feel anything weird when doing so.

How did I do this? What I did was, i started out by giving “value” to strangers by walking passed them and just making a comment about their shoes or jacket, like, “Hey, nice color jacket that is, how original” then just walk off instead of expecting a conversation, this way you won’t have to deal with any possible negative response (this also trains your abundance muscle, as you’re not really concerned about what they think). After doing this a couple of times you will feel comfortable doing this and you take it a small step further by looking the people in the eyes, which is a big deal for some. You smile at them when giving them some sort of value (giving compliments) and THEN you walk off. Next step, after you gave value with a smile on your face, is you WAIT for the response and as you will notice, 75% of the people smile back at you! (All us people have “mirror neurons” in our brain which have a couple of functions but 1 of ‘m basically is that when someone smiles at you, you automatically smile back and don’t even know you are doing it!) and THIS is exactly what you are after! Because that small thing as a “smile back at you” will be a reference to you which tells you it is OK to talk to other people, now after doing this for a while you will have a positive feeling anchored in your brain, it will feel GOOD talking to other people.

I started of just like this and from there on it became easier for me to talk to other people without feeling “challenged”. And I stepped it up more and more using small steps at a time and now I feel pretty comfortable going in directly!

So, if this works for me…it should absolutely work for you!!! And I want to leave you with a mission:
Give some kind of value to at LEAST 10 people each day! Start slowly then push yourself further as I mentioned above and you know what, if the “value giving” goes well…you might even start a conversation and then…maybe…?

This is an easy one and you know it. Everyone gets the opportunity to say something to 10 people in a single day so if you feel challenged with talking to “others”, this mission might help you out! GO AND DO IT!

Rick Dutch.

Hey you how is everything going? Welcome to my BLOG.

Here you will have access to detailed story’s about anything i might think is valuable for you and that might help you in any kind of way…and yeah also just to relief some tention and to speak my mind. I will be writing posts about Self Improvement, Gaming, Relational stuff and any other subject i think i should post.

In the “about me” page you will find a lot of very personal information about me that tell the story of why i actualy do what i am doing now. But i would also like to give you the chance to get to know me on another level, because my life is not only about beeing a serious educating guy…far from it

I have lots of hobbie’s like hanging out with “the guy’s” and watching “Thai Boxing & K1″ on tv etc. But the most interesting of all would be “Music”. I grew up on music and have a big collection of with a wide variety, from The Beatles to Enigma and from Pop to Hard and Fast Electronical music which is even my biggest passion in music as i am a writer of my own electronical music which have been pressed on Vinyl and CD and released world wide! I have played all around the globe on smaller parties aswel as huge massive Rave’s from Europe to Australia…I LOVE MY LIFE!!!

I also train Thai/Kick Boxing and i have been doing this since the age of 16, almost half of my life (damn!)…I think that beeing physicaly fit is VERY important if you want to get the most out of a day! Only educating yourself mentaly wont have such a big impact unless your body isn’t in a fit shape, if you want to produce (learn)…you have to take care of your “production machine” (Body) , just something i learnt from reading “the 7 habbits of effective leadership”.

So, i think you now have a good idea of who i am and what makes me move around in the world, i shared some very personal stuff with you because i want you to know that i’m…like…A REAL PERSON!

To bring this to an ending i would like to ask you to engage in a challenge, if…you are a DEDICATED person, because i want to leave you now with a small task that i got from doing a Tony Robbins program and it is called “The 7 days positive challenge”. It works like this: “You only get to have POSITIVE THOUGHTS especialy when facing challenge’s! When you notice your state going down…you can NOT leave it down longer than 5 seconds! or else you will have to start the 7 days over…and over…and over, untill you manage to have positive thoughts only” This way you condition yourself to become a happier person that doesn’s get affected by any negativity around you!

Let me know how this works for you and leave me a comment about it!

See you soon,

Rick Dutch.