Rick Dutch

Hey there, whatsup!

Now i would like to share with you, something i have been playing with for a long time and which helps me to reduce the tension i used to have when approaching a hot looking lady. As we are hardwired to look for possible sexual mates we, men, tend to “scan” a girl up and down real quickely to find out if she has all the sexual indicators, to fire up a certain feeling to make us want to go over and “talk” to her…with the intention of having sex in the end. Now i have noticed in the past, and this is nothing out of the ordinary, that every time i saw a girl that is sexually attractive to me, i allready start to have this tension, then, i decided i would like to talk to her…and the tension built up a little bit more…and more when thinking things like “damn…shes FINE!” “oh wow, look at those legs!” “oh my god her eyes…she looks so naughty” “i want to make her mine!” and so…

I noticed how i was already “investing” emotionaly in a person who didn’t even knew i was alive! And the more i invested, the more “AA” i felt. So that made me think “how can i control this? How can i make this less fucked up? How can i go over there with a more secure feeling?”

It made me re think everything i did before and during an approach and i started to experiment with a new “mindset”, a mindset that gave me such good results that i can now disregard the “3 second rule” and look at a lady the whole night, knowing what i want from her…*snap out of it* and go over and talk to her with a pretty relaxed feeling!

What i found out was the following:

-When i am in a restaurant for an example and i want to order dinner, i can call the waitress and discuss several meals with her, order my drinks, have a laugh and not feel anything.

-When i am in a clothing store, i can talk about clothes, fashion, whatever, with a hot girl who works there or who happens to stand around, and not feel anything.

-When i need to find the way to some place, i can ask any hot girl, and not feel anything.

-When i, actually need an “opinion” (without actively using an opinion opener) i can ask the hottest girl around, and not feel anything!!!

The reason why, is because i don’t NEED anything from her! At the moment i am asking for a sincere opnion, about several dishes and ordering my drinks…i have a completely different mindset than when i am actively “gaming” because then, i “might have something to loose”. And, i am not investing anything emotionaly! Im completely “blank” about her!

So what mindtricks am i currently playing with and how is this helping me?

When i see a girl walking around, in the club for an exsample, who happens to be my taste, i actually take my time to decide if she “looks” anything like i would want to hang out with…so i take well over 3 seconds, where normaly i would positively invest emotionaly in her, i now actualy scan for “defaults”. I know it may sound weird but let me tell you that this is POWERFUL!!! Just take your 1-itis, or like this hot model that you have been masturbating over for years as she is the most perfect thing ever! Lets take an exsample “Adriana Lima” now…shes HOT…but you know what…if you start looking for “imperfections” you WILL find them…and this WILL make her less attractive…just play around with this for a bit to see what it does with your preception of a girl you have always looked at as if she was the hottest thing ever!

Check this picture of Adriana Lima for an example, try to find 5 or more “imperfections” and you WILL find them (If you can’t find them, make them up!)…now FEEL…what it does to your “state”!

Also, instead of going over and thinking “i am going to open with an opinion opener but actualy i want to sleep with her asap” which raises a girls value right there and then…i condition myself to go over and actually start a conversation with her without even thinking of sex and making her something desirable!

These new ways of “acting” don’t work right away, but it does work! I conditioned myself to think differently than i have always done and let me tell you…now…i actually find women…kind of “boring” compared to before…like even the realy “hot ones”. They seem…just as normal as any other girl…and so…i hardly “feel” AA when approaching, in daytime or at night time.

When i go to do “an approach” i go over to find out if she could add any value to MY life, to see if she can qualify herself to ME…as she is just like every one else…and you know what…this improved my game incredibly! Even to the point where i now see how the realy hot ones…are approaching ME as i send out a completely different energy these days…i guess i can say it made me a more “Attractive Person”.

So i challenge you to try and play with these mindsets a bit to see how it will add value to you as a person. And feel free to let me know how it worked for you ok!

Good luck, and have fun!

Rick Dutch.