Rick Dutch

This is a rather “old” video but as i receive A LOT of questions about it, i want to take you a little bit deeper into what is going on in the video. Take you a little bit more in dept on things.

So, my friend and i are walking around the city, doing some “sight seeing” and “meeting people” ofcourse and we had to go to the airport as we were flying back in little over 1 hour. I told him i was tired and that i was just going to stand at my friends “pancake stand” to eat a pancake…and do nothing!

As we are chilling out there i see this girl comming over and she’s entering a store right across the street from where we are standing. I sigh…very deeply, look at my watch and say “ok..so if she comes out…i am going to HAVE to talk to her…” I say it almost in an annoyed kind of way, because i didn’t feel like doing it anymore and i know we have to run to the airport etc. “fuck this shit!”

Then i see her comming out of the store…i take one more bite as my pancake/crepe is still fresh…warm…juicy…tasty…delicious…you get the point…and this is what happend:

Now, i have pointed out a couple things in the subtitles already however, there is more going on than what i could put down there:

As you can see what’s happening around 0.40: When i opened her i kept a safe distance, i stood in the “friendly zone”, but i take 1 step closer to get into the “intimate zone”. My eye contact is strong and my facial expression was gentle. This leads to the fact that, as you may notice, she feels a shift in her state, she positions herself in a more comfortable body posture. She now crosses her legs and is directly facing me and is genuinely interested in what i have to say.

By taking a step closer i can lower my voice just a little bit and throw my intonality down a bit, which NLP and Hypnosis practioners do as well, and this results in her getting more engaged into my world and reality. I have had my Hypnosis coach doing the same to me and when a person does that, it’s like you feel drawn towards that person and all that is happening around you just dissappears. You are litteraly SUCKED into the other person’s world.

She was very comfortable and she exuded this calm energy, she also held a firm eye contact with me which indicates a strong personality.

Now my body language isn’t perfect as i didn’t feel completely at ease since i didn’t have time to be standing there in the 1st place. I had to RUN to the airport ASAP to not miss my flight…and…even more important… MY PANCAKE WAS GETTING COLD!!!

Well, i wanted to share this video with you, please take from it what you can, as i know it’s always interesting to actually see some one “DOING IT” in field. I always learn a LOT when i watch people interacting. Luckely my friend decided to film me in this approach because it showed me a lot of things where i can improve on, so thanks buddy!

I suggest you and a friend also film yourselves doing aproaches and interacting as you will learn SO MUCH watching yourself! You don’t need a fancy camera, this video was shot with a normal photo camera. Although a camera with the option to connect a microphone will be even better as you will record your whole conversation which you can “dissect” later and hear yourself talking.

Go out and DO IT NOW!!!