Rick Dutch

Hey you! whats up? Today i want to talk to you about “Appoaching random strangers” and how to feel comfortable about it!

I know that a lot of people let their past experiences stand in the way of their future success. They let themselves be held back because they have bad references to certain things and don’t want to feel the pain they have been trough, which is actually very logical.
However, living a life that doesn’t satisfy you…may hurt…and it can hurt a lot, I know because I had my share. So, you have linked negative feelings to a certain idea or action and they hold you from making any progression because you don’t know what’s going on and don’t know what you should do about it.

Now think of the following, “If I continue this way…without taking any action to change the course of my life, how will I look back at my life when I’m old?” I mean if you don’t do anything about it and just ignore that what needs attention, yes, you might live a happy life I mean, just act as if that thing isn’t there…that should do the trick! Right?!
No it doesn’t… ”That what is inside and expressed will set you free…that what is inside and kept imprisoned will eat you alive!” in other words, you HAVE to do something about your fear or it otherwise it will fuck you up!!! (just to use some clear words lol). So either way, you know that if you want to become stronger you have to face your fears and do something about it!
But you know what…you can take small steps to get out of your comfort zone if smacking your “challenge” right in the face and go full throttle to overcome it is a too big of step for you. Small steps WILL do! As long as you do something and see that what you do is working! You will create positive references to something that has frightened beforehand, and that’s the way you overcome your fears!

Old Me, just before an approach!

Now I have had the exact same challenge’s and I want to share with you a couple ways that might provide a solution for you as well as it did for me.
Like, I wanted to become more social and make it a natural thing for myself to talk to other people. And to go in directly and to start a conversation just like that was so far outside of my reality that I couldn’t do it AT ALL! I was the guy who was nervous beyond belief when I even thought of doing an “in direct approach Now I do direct approaches and basically don’t feel anything weird when doing so.

How did I do this? What I did was, i started out by giving “value” to strangers by walking passed them and just making a comment about their shoes or jacket, like, “Hey, nice color jacket that is, how original” then just walk off instead of expecting a conversation, this way you won’t have to deal with any possible negative response (this also trains your abundance muscle, as you’re not really concerned about what they think). After doing this a couple of times you will feel comfortable doing this and you take it a small step further by looking the people in the eyes, which is a big deal for some. You smile at them when giving them some sort of value (giving compliments) and THEN you walk off. Next step, after you gave value with a smile on your face, is you WAIT for the response and as you will notice, 75% of the people smile back at you! (All us people have “mirror neurons” in our brain which have a couple of functions but 1 of ‘m basically is that when someone smiles at you, you automatically smile back and don’t even know you are doing it!) and THIS is exactly what you are after! Because that small thing as a “smile back at you” will be a reference to you which tells you it is OK to talk to other people, now after doing this for a while you will have a positive feeling anchored in your brain, it will feel GOOD talking to other people.

I started of just like this and from there on it became easier for me to talk to other people without feeling “challenged”. And I stepped it up more and more using small steps at a time and now I feel pretty comfortable going in directly!

So, if this works for me…it should absolutely work for you!!! And I want to leave you with a mission:
Give some kind of value to at LEAST 10 people each day! Start slowly then push yourself further as I mentioned above and you know what, if the “value giving” goes well…you might even start a conversation and then…maybe…?

This is an easy one and you know it. Everyone gets the opportunity to say something to 10 people in a single day so if you feel challenged with talking to “others”, this mission might help you out! GO AND DO IT!

Rick Dutch.