Rick Dutch

Hey there, how are things these days! Over here in Holland it is getting cold and rainy…and im a person that absolutely LOVES warm weather, the sun…beaches…cocktails…hmmm yeah i cant wait untill spring time Never the less, i am pretty much in control of my state so i am still anxious to face the many challenges that are awaiting me…even though it’s cold and wet…very wet!

How are you facing your challenges? are you facing and overcomming them or are you running from them, trying to hide from the pain that you know you will feel soon…as you know that you are just stalling the inevitable.

“you can run but you can’t hide”

Well,  maybe you DO want to face your challenge’s but you have no clue of how to climb that mountain. Maybe you would like some help with it?

I want to offer this help to you!

As the value giving person that i am i would like to give you some free “Coaching Sessions” so that we can get you straight through that amazing goal you always wanted to achieve but never seemed to have the energy for to achieve on your own.

Who can applie for this? If you are serious about achieving your goals, if you are serious about making changes in your life and doing what it takes to get there, IF…YOU…THINK you are dedicated enough to take action and literally DO SOMETHING that will lead you to a more passionate life!!!  Than please, don’t hesitate and contact me.

If you are interested, email me at rickdutchcoaching@gmail.com and we will take it from there!

So, again, if you are dedicated, like a lot of people are, you can change your life, like a lot of people already have!

Don’t hesitate, don’t let your “Limiting beliefs” stop you! You miss 100% of the shots you DON’T take!!! (Wayne Gretzky)

Contact me!

Rick Dutch.

Hey there my friend! It has been a short while since I kept you updated but I’m SO very busy it’s not even funny J (well it is actually). I received several questions from readers and people around me which I would like to put up here so you also will have a bigger impression of me, how I look at things and the values and purposes that I live by! Here goes:

So, why did you put up this BLOG, what’s your purpose with it?

Well, I put this up so people can maybe get inspired to take some action and go out to shape up their lives a bit. I want people to see what I am going trough so they can relate to it and see that they are not “the only one” and I want them to see my growth. I won’t write huge and difficult posts on here as I want ALL people to be able to read my posts and feel related to what I write. So everything here is real and simple.  

This one is interesting

Based on the movie “The 40 year old virgin”, If a guy who lives in those circumstances and with that kind of mindset comes to you for help, what are the chances of him becoming a “Pickup Artist” and how long of an intensive training would he have to go through?

Haha, yeah well, this question is not so easy to answer “by me”, we would have to ask that person the following question, “how fast are you going to implement everything into your system?”. That anyone can become great in the “Social Arts” is a fact! Look at all the big guys in the scene who used to be complete “nerds” back in the days!? I can teach him a whole lot and I will be able to give him A LOT of things to think about but that person will actually have to implement everything and based on his personal successes he will do this fast…or take more time. I have seen guys shooting up really fast and I have seen some that took more time to get to the next level…and yes…unfortunately…I also see guys that are still there where they have started off in the beginning, they just don’t want to or aren’t able to push themselves further because of “possible personal reasons”.

 Working with “Personal Self Development” what are you currently “working on” when it comes to yourself?

Well, at the moment I am doing a lot of reading, I’m currently plowing through several books about “Coaching, Social Psychology and Human Nature”. I have this hunger for knowledge and I go through anything that will help me grow and help others on a deeper level.

 To overcome “approach anxiety”, what would be more important, Confidence or Skill?

In my opinion confidence would be more important here, you don’t need any skills to “approach” another person, you just need to go over there and start an interaction with them, which you will do when you are confident. However, how do you gain confidence? By practicing “A SKILL”, Confidence is something that comes when you are certain about yourself, about who you are…about your skills. So a good advice here would probably be “Go and practice a certain skill to get confident in whatever it is that you want to do”. (If you need help with this, you can always contact me: rickdutch@gmail.com)

Do affirmations really work?

Well, honestly…I’m not really sure but I used to do A LOT of affirmations or “incantations” which is another version of it. I got more confidence and yes I implemented a whole new belief system into my brain but I did a complete internal make over! Let me explain this a bit deeper. I didn’t only do the affirmations, I also went out there ON MY OWN (this will boost your confidence) I implemented things I learnt FAST, I read A LOT, i basically did everything I could to insert a whole new belief into my head so the whole combination of everything I did worked…yeah definitely! Affirmations and Incantations are being used since forever! The Roman army back in the days used them, even now the U.S. army is famous for the using following affirmation “yet do I walk in the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil…etc.” So yeah I think the power of affirmations is worldwide known and something I suggest everyone should work with if they want to speed up the implementation of a new belief system.

Body language, facial expressions and vocal intonations represent over 75% of our communication, do you think we are able to “seduce” a person without speaking the same language?

YES! I don’t “think” but I “know” this for a fact I wrote about my experiences in this matter and already post it. But I would like to point out a certain exercise anyways you can try to test this: “When you walk on the street or when you are in any public place basically, you scan or look around and try to make eye contact with someone of your liking. Then when your eyes lock into each other I would like you to think you are making passionate love to that person…now see what happens ” I went into this a bit deeper in my article about “The Power of Eye contact & facial expressions”

So, this was part 1 of the “Q & A” and I will post the 2^nd part when u guys send me more questions (I got a couple already but I would like for you to send me some more) Hopefully this have given you some food for thought.

See you soon my friend! 

Rick Dutch.

Hey! Today I want to give you my thoughts about what people in the seduction community call a “NEG”.

For the people who don’t know what I mean with a “NEG” I will give a short description of the term: A “NEG” is any kind of reaction from you to a woman’s behavior towards you, and by using the “NEG” you kinda show that you can stand your ground by calling them on anything that may have just happened or something you notice about her, like: She might have a bit of an attitude and you want to show her that you are not one of those losers that will get trampled on so you now give her a “NEG” by saying

“Hey, I ALMOST love the color of your hair, ehm…is it real tho?”

or something more fun that will create laughter but still shows you will not be messed with *this is ment as a reaction to something she says* “Oh really, Sassy Mc Sassers! what makes you so special then?”

A lot of people talk about “negging the girl hardcore” and really “giving her a mental beating” so they can come out as a person who has a higher value but as you can see “Negging” and “Being an asshole” are 2 things that lie very close to each other. I personally wouldn’t concentrate on “negging” as you might kill your set if you do it a little bit harshly and not with enough of a “wink”. People will feel uncomfortable and they will turn away from you! Which leaves you empty handed and all alone and that is not the outcome you want im sure!

Sienna, my own little Princess.

Look at it this way, and this is the mindset that i go by these days (Abdel Karisma, a good friend of mine and a personal coach, has spread my eyes wide open to this matter).

A girl gets told her entire life, starting from a very young age, that she is a princess and that she’s beautiful, first by her parents and relatives, then when she is older by men who feel attracted to her.

She see’s Britney Spears and C. Aguilera and a couple of Victoria’s Secret models on t.v. and so she get’s conditioned in a certain way. Later when she is all grown up she spends countless hours in front of the mirror making her self all beautiful and she really makes an effort of it to feel good about herself because everyone expects this from her, she expects this from herself…what do u think that this does to her “innergame”? let me tell you: She feels insecure about herself and about her looks! 90% chance she will NEVER walk out the door without any make up on…because she thinks she looks ugly without it.

So, women can be realy insecure about her looks, no matter what she acts like! We all know those Barbie dolls that act as if they are the “Belle of the Ball” and have this attitude issues that come with it. So I can do 2 things, 1, is Negging her so she feels even more discomfort or I can go for 2, anything else! because why would I want to make a person that is probably already insecure about him or herself even more insecure while instead I can make that person feel GOOD when they are around me! Now there are all kinds of things you can do to achieve that however this article is not about that, were talking about “The Neg” here J.

So I would really like you to consider that I have just said and try to ban “the NEG” out of your system or to become really good in calibrating how and when to use it because when used wrong…you can really give that person a Pimp Smack in the face! And I’m sure that this is NOT what you want to do. If you want to become more interesting and a person of higher value, use the “Push/Pull” tactic instead, it’s fun, exciting, creates interest and attraction! I will soon post a video of myself demonstrating how I use “push and pull” in field.

So stay tuned for more my friend, and keep your emails with feedback and questions coming rickdutch@gmail.com

See you soon,

Rick Dutch.

Hey there my very, very, VERY close friend! are you feeling just as fabulous and sexy as I do?  

Just the other day I was out in a bar/club and it was all fun, nothing special, nothing “high energy” going on. Guys standing around the dance floor looking at the few ladies who were dancing and trying to have a little fun but were actually bored stiff because…it was a “same old” night like many in a row. You know those nights right?

Then this guy walks in with this HUGE photo camera and wants to make pictures for the clubs website, he makes a couple of pictures to test the light and then starts walking around, couple of guys have their pictures taken and the girls pose in front of the camera as well…now THIS is what you have to pay attention to the next time a scenario like this one occurs in the place where you go out!

Just NOTICE…how the ladies in the clubs or bars know EXACTLY how to “look”, they know exactly what to do with their lips, they know exactly what expressions they make, how to do it and when to do it! They are AMAZING at “posing”. They always put the “almost” perfect sexual look on their faces!

Where the guys most of the time have no clue what to do or how to “pose” and look like dumb retards most of the time…the ladies look amazing, hot, sensual, sexual and naughty…and they can do it on command.

Now HOW do they manage to do that? It’s because they POSE in front of the mirror…A LOT! They do it multiple times a day…EVERY DAY!

Women practice “being sexual”!

Now I know that there are a LOT of men out there…and I think it’s actually the majority of men who have NO idea of what “being sexual” is about. They have no idea how to give a woman a sexual look, or a sensual look…or any look for that matter, since us men condition ourselves to look all angry, rough, tough and everything else that we think is “cool” and I know this from 1^st hand experience! I am STILL working on training my facial muscles to chill the fuck out since I have an “angry” look on my face when I’m “just chilling”. So when I talk to people, and kind words come out of my mouth which comforts them…they see my facial expression which projects some kind of “roughness/anger” for an example…people won’t know what the hell is going on with me, my words and facial expressions are not in line with each other, so this creates a slightly discomfort in the people you talk to since it’s “incongruent” with one another.

Now I would like you to take a look in the mirror right now, and I want you to really NOTICE what you see, what you feel when you look at yourself! What kind of energy are you sending out into the world?!

Personally I train my looks in the mirror now to try to fully understand what my facial muscles are doing, when they are doing it and how they are doing it. So now I am more in control over what my facial expressions are all about.

Something GREAT that will help you out if you would like to train this as well , which I seriously encourage you to do, is to “think” about certain things which will get you in that certain state where your facial expressions will project exactly that state you are in. So, if you want to look angry, think of something that gets you into that angry state. On the other hand…if you want to look all sexy and sensual…think about how you are having your passionate and amazing sensual way with a very beautiful thing…ah…now that makes you smile all naughty doesn’t it . See…it works!

Just try this, play around with it a little, and not only look, but really try to NOTICE, what happens with your facial muscles, how your face changes in the slightest, but very important ways. Think of this for a second, before humans could speak with words…our way of communication was by the use of body language…and facial expressions! And yeah we probably made a couple of grumbling noises as well, I think we sounded something like an “Aardvark” (look it up on Google if you want to know what that is, lol).

Now as you think back at the ladies looking all perfectly luscious and sexual on command…don’t you think we can do the exact same thing?

HELL YEAH!!!

Now here is where the actual fun starts! I would like you to test the following:

When you are in ANY situation where your eyes meet up with those of basically ANY lady, preferably one of your liking, YOU KEEP EYECONTACT, and you THINK about how you are making passionate and intense love to her! Now this will take a little time and practice but notice what happens…most likely is that she can’t look away anymore and looks back at you…both of your eyes meet for a couple of seconds (which seems to last way longer in both of your reality’s) and she might even throw you a beautiful smile…and you know what that means…IT IS ON!

You have just projected your “naughty intentions” to her and deep in her soul…she knows exactly what you want, it’s an unconscious thing, she might not even be fully aware of it but you have just “touched” her! You have just pulled her closer towards you with that amazing sexual look of yours!

Instant sexual attraction right there!

So go practice this stuff and go try it out, you might not notice anything at 1^st, but as with every skill, you will have to practice and within a very short time, if you do it correctly, I promise you…you will SEE and you will FEEL the difference!

It is FUN, it is COOL, it is KEY for you to become more attractive and as a very fun add to all of these amazing things already…you will make your friends go…WTF?!?!?!

Let me know how this works out for you as I really appreciate your feedback and it will help me grow more as well, no doubt! And I am practicing and working on this a lot myself, I will keep you updated with anything new that really works for me.

See you soon,

Rick Dutch.

Hey you! whats going on in your life these days? Are you living that fabulous life that you are dreaming about? Are you doing those cool things, meeting up with those amazing friends, having those huge amounts of phone calls from people wanting to meet up with you? ARE YOU LIVING THAT MILLION DOLLAR LIFESTYLE THAT YOU KNOW YOU SHOULD BE LIVING?!?!

No???

Well, then i think there are a few adjustments you might want to make in your way of living life my friend!
And if you have no idea of what how to accomplish that…then i would LOVE to spend some of my valuable time to try and help you out with things as good as possible.
I receive more and more questions, trough PM’s on the forums where i post, trough email, this site or my youtube channel. Now i think it would be a cool idea, and a valuable one for everyone if i posted the best questions, maybe all of them, right here on my BLOG!

So, if you have some challenge’s regarding…well, basicly anything that you want to share with the world, just send them to rickdutch@gmail.com and i will do my best to give you the answers of some one who has been working trough probably the exsact same things and is able to give you 1st hand solutions that worked for ME, so they might aswel work for you to! I always say “Test it…and you will find out” how simple is that hey?!

So send your stuff my way, rickdutch@gmail.com and keep a close look on my BLOG and hopefully SOON i will post a “Q and A” here where everyone will benefit from.

Talk soon,

Rick Dutch.