Ok, so i received this amazing question from a guy “J.T.”, who was wondering how I deal with things like “What if you open a girl, and she doesn’t respond, and acts as if your not there” or “what if you get amogged – what if you get fucked with by the Alfa male of the group”
Well, here are several answers that came to mind after thinking about what made me hold a positive mindset.
I started working on strengthening my Innergame over time by taking actions that “put me out there”
Now what do i mean with that…well, like for an example – 1st, I have been Muay Thai boxing for a serious amount of time now, not to brag about it but i have had enough time to spar – or play fight if you like to call it that way, with guys, smaller than me…but also BIGGER as me, like the tipical gorilla type of guys, big, muscular, no neck, realy strong…the tipical Silver Back, you know the type!
Now what has this got to do with getting amogged, well, lets just say, that i now KNOW, deep in my core, that yes, if shit hits the fan and the guy would like to hit me for an example..i will probably fly across the room as i am not a big guy at all, im a leight wheight, 73 kilo’s. However, he would have to hit me 1st…an i am not the guy that would let that happen just like that. I know, through 1st hand EXPERIENCE, that i am faster than him…and i KNOW…trough 1st hand experience…that i WILL be able to knock him out.
Not that i am going to do this…im the last one to start a bar brawl, i hate fights, im very friendly…but i AM confident about my strenghts and my capabilities. So even in the presence of a BIGGER guy than me, my whole fysiology will still exhude…that relaxing and confident energy…i am not easely intimidated by bigger guys, or by guys that seem or act as an ALFA.
2nd – I went out…ALONE…a LOT of times…now this too, creates balls as there will be nobody backing you up, nobody to wing you, nobody to talk to if your NOT in set and, more importantly…nobody to push your state up when it goes down…
It all depends on YOU!
When going out, i HAD to go in and talk to people in order to not look as that stupid weird guy standing alone with his drink in the corner. So while crashing and burning, i developped a mental strength that kept me going for several hours having fun beeing alone…but meeting other people!
And let me tell you, that now, i can go to bars, pubs, clubs, whatever y myself…and just meet up with people i already know…so im never alone in there anyways…it took me some time to build to that point, but i did it! And that strenthens your innergame aswell.
Now 3rdly – I created a “positive mental attitude” which is a realy important thing to have!!! (SO important its not even funny)
Like, when some one around me, for an example, interperts something as “beeing shitty” or “negative” and go’s “Ah, fuck, this and that happend and it sucks so hard!” and get into this negative mindset, i ask them “well, what POSITIVE thing have you learnt from it?” then at 1st they still go all negative and go “yeah well, that this and that sucks ofcourse!” but i wont buy that…so i ask them again “what POSITIVE THING…have you learnt from it” and then they come up with one or 2 anwsers and i tell them “see…so it has been an amazing thing that just happend, you learnt something valuable that will make you better prepared for something alike in the future…you gained strenght…your smarter now!” and right away you will see the expressions in their face change from something that might come of as “stressed out” at 1st to something that looks “at ease” in the end.
Or something i ALWAYS tell people, i almost PREACH it is when they encounter a “problem” and talk about that they have “this and that problem” i refrase the thing for them by saying “well, try to look at it as A CHALLENGE”
Almost instantly, you will see them look as if they are thinking about what the hell your talking about! Then, and it seriously works like magic, they get this relaxed look on their face and go “damn…when i look at it that way…i feel the need to go and resolve it right away as it feels so much more positive!”
And that is also what i do myself, i try to learn from everything that happens, try to take the most positive things from realy negative SHIT that goes on…also in my life right now as im writing this (everybody has stuff going on…i am not an exeption). I dont have ANY problems, i have “Challenges” and a challenge is something i WILL overcome, one way or the other! It drives me to seek out oppportunities, to look for ways to make things possible, to see “doors opening” instead of “doors closing” and i dont have a solution…i will shove my foot in the door before it shuts…as i am sure that something will come to mind before it closes.
Where people come up with reasons why NOT to do something…i come up with ways and reasons why i SHOULD do it! “When you can’t…you must…when you must…YOU CAN!”
To give you an example:
“Hey…i cant do this or that because i dont have money…i really want to but yeah…the money…” is just another way of saying “Yeah, my brain is conditioned in a way that it keeps me from doing literally anything as it comes up with reasons why NOT to do something” While I myself would find a way to get that amount of money to do that what i want to do! NO EXEPTIONS! (and i dont mean i will go out stealing or doing something that doensnt allign with my values)
Anthony Robbins said this ones, to me personally…in 1 of his audio programs
“People are not lazy, they simply have impotent goals”
Well personaly…i have rock hard and rock solid BONERS of goals!!! And they are so AMAZING that i NEED to live a life filled with “positivity, courage, challenge overcomming solutions, a positive mindset…A STRONG INNERGAME” My goals depend on them…my visions…Sienna, my daughter…MY LIFE!!!
So, now, to come to real answer your question…i don’t ever get amogged…because i dont give anybody the opportunity to push me around. My appearance has this “I AM NOT EASELY INTIMIDATED” energy. I am confident, i feel GREAT, i LOVE my life, i am used to overcomming challenges, i am a PASSIONATE MAN and i shall not be touched by other peoples negative energy!
Shittests…i dont get them…they don’t exist in my reality, if a woman behaves a certain way…it doesn’t realy affect me, at all! As i have been trough so much already that whatever a woman can throw at me doesn’t affect me anymore.
If anyone can give me a good enough reason let me and my state get manhandled by anothers person’s crap and let it fuck with my amazing feeling…i will actually considder it, but in the last 5 years…people have tried…and failed…with comming up with something good! Because there is “NO REASON WHY YOU SHOULD FEEL “NEGATIVE” BECAUSE OF AN AMOG OR A SHIT TEST”
So, this is how i deal with it “in a nutshell” an i hope you can relate to some things and take your learning points from them and use them to your benefits.
J.T. Thank you for your question, i hope this answer provides you with that what you are looking for.
Good luck creating a strong innergame yourself, and if you have any questions, feel free to contact me ok!
Rick Dutch!