Rick Dutch

Hey you! What’s up? Today I wanted to write down this particular experience because I thought it would make a fun “field rapport”. I was going to meet up with a very special lady friend of mine to congratulate her with her birthday. She was in a local café with her friends and a couple of guys, she apparently didn’t know them, and I just decided i was going to go in and out because i wanted to go sleep early for a change.

So when I got there I saw a lot of people that I knew, colleagues and friends and I said hi all over the place. I had a genuinely good time talking to everyone and I even pulled out a magic trick J . About this time I looked around and noticed how much social proof I already had built. When I was talking to someone there were lady’s all around me and when I looked at them…well…the looks on their faces said more than enough

The actual fun started when I started talking to my special lady friend, I saw her standing alone for a moment and thought it would be time to give her a bit of my special attention, yeah baby yeah…after all I was there because of her.

We started talking and having a fun conversation, she had a couple of drinks and was quite “funny” to be around, she smiled all the time which I really liked and she had “this look” on her face…yeah I just love the looks on women’s faces when they had a couple of shots

After a couple of minutes I noticed 1 of the guys checking us out and soon after also his friends. I didn’t pay much attention to it and I just continued on talking and having great fun. The more fun we had the more the guys were looking at us…AND the more they were drinking…LOL. So at a certain time I kinda noticed what they must have been thinking…I just “stole” a girl out of their group and they could see how much fun we had together and they were frustrated by jealousy. They were drinking lots of beer, looking our way with these “looks” on their faces, obviously talking about us and then one of them stood up and walked our way. He whispered something in the ear of my “friend” and walked back to his friends, my lady friend then said to me “lol, he says that he knows exactly what you are doing and that I should watch my back with you” the only thing I could answer was “yeah, you better watch your back with me ”.

Then she told me that earlier on that night, that same guy came up to her and that she had to do some “psychological thing” with him…it was something about “a cube, a ladder, flowers” and when i listend to her saying all this it hit me, as some of you guys, who read “The Game” will also have noticed…and I continued for her “ah, and let me guess…a storm?, and where is that storm located? and what color do the flowers have? Etc. etc.”

I recognized what the guy was doing as he did the visualization test called “The Cube” on her, used to read a person’s personality. Neil Strauss wrote about it in his book “The Game” I think (correct me if I’m wrong). And since then it is something that a lot of “gamers/pua’s” are using in their routine stack to “impress” a woman…by going “hey I can read your personality”.

I told her what he did and kept in mind that the guy could be an aspiring PUA who just read “The Game”. (I gave my lady friend a copy of The Game and she started reading it so she knows what’s going on).

After a while I wanted to go home but wanted to go and have a chat with the guys who were looking my way for about 1,5 hours with an unbelievable look on their face :p (yeah and to have some self amusing fun, lol). I walked over to their table said hi to the guys and wanted to shake their hands…one guy’s jaw dropped open and gave me a look as if I was a well known superstar that just came to say hi to him but the guy who I approached 1^st didn’t want to shake my hand and he said “I don’t know you!” (with a drunk voice) I gave him that much and told him he was exactly right, “yeah you don’t know me indeed!” (and keep in mind that I did this with the biggest smile on my face!).

He: Yeah so why would I want to shake your hand?!

Me: Dude…do you have issues with yourself?

He: Mumble mumble…errrrmmm…NO! but I don’t know you so…

Me: Dude, you and your friends are looking at the girl and me for over an hour now, are you angry with yourself that YOUR not sitting there with her?

He: Errmmm, errmmm…(mumbling noises, looks of self pitty on his face)

Then I cut him off, in a dominating way!!! and said:

“Bro listen!, and you guys also! (pointing to the other guys) Next time you go out, you should put a smile on your faces, leave the beer alone and then maybe…maybe…you will have the chance to sit down with a nice looking girl for a talk instead of sitting here being frustrated with your male friends about guys who “steal away” your girls and leave you to go home all alone to play with yourselves instead of with a woman! And if you feel the need…you can always come to me for help! I smiled at them…laughed…pat the guy on the back…and left…with the lady…

You should have seen the looks on their faces! Priceless!!!

You want to know what the moral of this story is?

It is “ok” if your a bit clueless of “what to do”, we are not all naturally good in social interactions etc. I know I wasn’t! But if you are an “Average Frustrated Chump” (as the guys in my story, who have issues with themselves) there is always something you can do about it, just take action to become more attractive and to try to better yourself in any other way! However, if you are an AFC and react this way to guys that out-game you by far…you are just taking a step further backwards! I mean, Don’t hate the player that has better game, just learn from what he does and use it to improve yours!!! (Or hate the game lol).

Good luck and see you soon!

Rick Dutch.

Ps. @ the angry drunk guys of the café: My friends! If you ever read this, my invitation to help you out will always be valid, just contact me, and I will happily coach you to big successes!

Hey! How are you doing today!  I can only say that i feel so much fire burning inside of me since i have incredible and amazing plans for this year and i would like to share a couple of them with you.

The main thing i am working on right now is to become an actual Certified Coach! I am going through this Coaching Education here in Holland with a seriously big name in the “Coaching Industry” and i expect to have my 1st certificate in May as i finish my 1st education in April. After this i have already signed in for the 2nd education to become even a higher certified Coach. Also, the education that i am going through is highly accreditted by a European and a Worldwide organisation that ensures the extreme high quality of coaching education that i am doing and ensures that YOU will be working with a coach that has had a serious kickass education! (more information about this accreditation will follow)

Besides this this coaching education i am also working on becomming a “Certified Hypnosis Practitioner” (again, certified by a highly accreditted company). I made this decision as i feel it will be very valuable for a client as i will be able to go way deeper into a person’s subcontious mind to find internal block’s and limiting beliefs and take care of them to ensure a better and more powerful growth! I “expect” to become a certified Hypnosis Practitioner somewhere around September this year.

Why am i doing these Educations? Because i am getting more and more requests for “help”. More and more people are finding their way to me when looking for help in “Social Interactions”. As an instructor i am well able to help every one that wants to improve their skills and backed up by my educations i will be able to help, instruct and actually realy COACH on such a deep and extreme level that i will be able to provide such an amazing “backup” for you and your challenges…it’s not even funny!

Why am i telling you this? Because you are comming back here every now and then expecting to read amazing field and lay reports and my thoughts and insights…and your not seeing much of that at the moment. I appologise for this! It’s not that i am not doing anything bacause let me tell you…i am so extremely busy with “going through social interactions” (if you know what i mean lol) and together with my educations i hardly have time to write down my FR’s or LR’s…which kinda sucks…i know. But think about it this way —-> I am working F-ING hard to enable myself to give YOU an extreme HIGH quality of “Help” in any way you might need.

I will do my best to write some interesting things asap but my educations have 1st priority for now.

Also, i would like to thank you guys for your feedback, emails, comments etc. it means a lot to me and gives me an insight of whats going on inside your heads which i learn from aswel.

Also, i am open for “Coaching Requests”, i receive quite a few of them from all over the place, and if you are interested in some 1 on 1 or group infield work, feel free to contact me and we will overcome your challenges!

Talk soon,

Rick Dutch

This is a rather “old” video but as i receive A LOT of questions about it, i want to take you a little bit deeper into what is going on in the video. Take you a little bit more in dept on things.

So, my friend and i are walking around the city, doing some “sight seeing” and “meeting people” ofcourse and we had to go to the airport as we were flying back in little over 1 hour. I told him i was tired and that i was just going to stand at my friends “pancake stand” to eat a pancake…and do nothing!

As we are chilling out there i see this girl comming over and she’s entering a store right across the street from where we are standing. I sigh…very deeply, look at my watch and say “ok..so if she comes out…i am going to HAVE to talk to her…” I say it almost in an annoyed kind of way, because i didn’t feel like doing it anymore and i know we have to run to the airport etc. “fuck this shit!”

Then i see her comming out of the store…i take one more bite as my pancake/crepe is still fresh…warm…juicy…tasty…delicious…you get the point…and this is what happend:

Now, i have pointed out a couple things in the subtitles already however, there is more going on than what i could put down there:

As you can see what’s happening around 0.40: When i opened her i kept a safe distance, i stood in the “friendly zone”, but i take 1 step closer to get into the “intimate zone”. My eye contact is strong and my facial expression was gentle. This leads to the fact that, as you may notice, she feels a shift in her state, she positions herself in a more comfortable body posture. She now crosses her legs and is directly facing me and is genuinely interested in what i have to say.

By taking a step closer i can lower my voice just a little bit and throw my intonality down a bit, which NLP and Hypnosis practioners do as well, and this results in her getting more engaged into my world and reality. I have had my Hypnosis coach doing the same to me and when a person does that, it’s like you feel drawn towards that person and all that is happening around you just dissappears. You are litteraly SUCKED into the other person’s world.

She was very comfortable and she exuded this calm energy, she also held a firm eye contact with me which indicates a strong personality.

Now my body language isn’t perfect as i didn’t feel completely at ease since i didn’t have time to be standing there in the 1st place. I had to RUN to the airport ASAP to not miss my flight…and…even more important… MY PANCAKE WAS GETTING COLD!!!

Well, i wanted to share this video with you, please take from it what you can, as i know it’s always interesting to actually see some one “DOING IT” in field. I always learn a LOT when i watch people interacting. Luckely my friend decided to film me in this approach because it showed me a lot of things where i can improve on, so thanks buddy!

I suggest you and a friend also film yourselves doing aproaches and interacting as you will learn SO MUCH watching yourself! You don’t need a fancy camera, this video was shot with a normal photo camera. Although a camera with the option to connect a microphone will be even better as you will record your whole conversation which you can “dissect” later and hear yourself talking.

Go out and DO IT NOW!!!

Hey you! How are you experiencing this 1st part of 2010? I already have had a couple of amazing adventures, i would like to share one with you.

 (I am telling you this while blinking my eye though ok, so don’t take it TO literally!)

So yeah, last weekend there was an organized meeting of  www.dutchattraction.nl  in Rotterdam so after work I drove over there to meet up with these guys for the 1^st time. I met up with them and talked about this and that and after a drink I went off to the other side of the location, to the “dance area” as we were sitting in a sort of closed of “bar/lounge” part of the location.

I walked in there and almost immediately I received IOI’s from a girl I passed. I walked passed her an I saw her “checking me out” I gave a her a solid look back, smiled at her and passed on to see what the location was all about as it was the 1^st time I was there. I continued my round and saw “the guys” standing near the bar and went over to say hi, we were talking a bit and then I saw the same girl looking at me and this time she brought her friend with her who was very obviously checking me out as well.

I smiled at the girl and made a hand gesture towards her, forcing another IOI and basically to let her know I was aware of their presence and their “eye balling”. She smiled back at me and yelled something at me I couldn’t hear of course so I walked over to ask what they eye balling was all about.

“Hey, are you going to keep eye balling me from a distance? Don’t you have the balls to come over and say hi?! ”

She said she wasn’t eye balling me but that she heard that her friend was interested in me and she wanted to see “why, who, what” for herself. I literally grabbed her, pulled her towards me and softly told her, in her ear, “oh yeah, well that naughty look in your eyes tells me something completely different ”

She started laughing and from there she couldn’t stop touching me and her hands were all over me, even the guys noticed it as they told me afterwards what they have noticed. We started talking and our bodies were pressed together during the whole conversation creating a huge sexual tension. She told me that her friend and she were talking about me, “Would you do him?” was what they were discussing. I complimented her on her honesty and gave her 3 points for that “And if you get to 10 points you will win a nice surprise”.

She wanted to know how to get more points etc. and what the surprise was etc. and from then on she was totally working to get more points. Our conversation, filled with sexual framing and teasing was going for about 3 minutes when I pulled her against me, whispered something in her ear “you just have to wait and find out now huh…” and while withdrawing my head our cheek’s touched and I pulled her in for a kiss. We made out for a while and during a time period of, I think 15 minutes we talked more naughty stuff and increased the sexual tension between us. She was rubbing herself against me and couldn’t stop touching me and grabbing my ass…and the rest of my male equipment lol.

She told me straight up that nothing was going to happen tonight as she was there with her friends celebrating her birthday etc. I told her that her friends might be getting jealous and that she should return to them (so that I could continue myself). I told her we were going to have to continue this conversation sometime soon and we exchanged numbers and went our own way.

During the next week we called a couple times and talked on the phone for as long as 1,5 hours at a time, she is well educated and has good conversational skills. She also knows about NLP and marketing and all the tips, tricks and the Do’s and the Dont’s of Human Psychology as she studies “something” But yeah, we had a lot to talk about and created a lot of rapport during this process. I invited myself over to her place for a drink and we set a date. I went over there, she showed me her place a bit and we started talking. We had a good 2 hour conversation with a lot of KINO going on and she showed me some “Belly Dancing Moves” as she is an active “Belly Dancing…dancer” or whatever you want to cal someone like that

She showed me her tattoo, which led to where she had to pull up her t-shirt as it covered a part of her back, side and up to her left brest. It was a very feminine tattoo and OFCOURSE…I had to touch it all over to see if it was fake or not (Oh naughty me) I pulled up my shirt to show her my tattoo’s and…ofcourse…she had to touch mine One thing led to another and we started making out after all this hot belly dancing and tattoo touching action. And before I knew it we landed on her bed. We made out for some time, pulled each others clothes off and my hands went on their way.

The 1^st thing I noticed was something “un usual” in her panty’s…what the fuck is that?! I thought to myself…then she told me…”She was pierced!!!”. “This could get kinky” was what was going through my mind and Jezus Christ on a Roman Horse did it get “kinky”.

The girl scratched my back to shreds, bit my nipples in half AND ALMOST TORE THEM OFF !!! (i knew the Anti Christ would appear to me some day!)

Holy *&%# , she HURT me…I was about to go into a fist fight with her almost using my Muay Thai Boxing skills to fight the girl off if it wasn’t for the fact that I was concentrating on thrusting!!!

At times I had to restrain her hands besides her head to keep her from scratching me! She answered very smartly by leaving her hands back there…but then she started BITING my lip!!! OUCH!!! It almost seemed like a wrestling match between us, I was trying to fuck her and she was trying to do everything she could possibly think of to HURT ME!!! I almost gave her a taste of my for head when she 1^st bit me! Thankfully I am very resourceful and came up with genius and intelligent ways that even Albert Einstein wouldn’t have thought of…I stopped kissing her and we head wrestled during the whole process of “passionate love making”, yeah right, there was no love in the air that night! She was like a Nazi Camp Executioner trying to TORTURE me in all the ways she could possibly think of!!!

“I have to come, I have to come…QUICKELY before she thinks of other ways to HURT MEEEEEEE!!!”

I can honestly tell you that it’s hard to concentrate when this kind of “Punishment Beyond Death” is going on!!! But people…let me tell you…I pulled it off!!! And GAWD was I happy I did hahaha I threw myself off of her and I can still hear myself throwing out a loud “sigh”. I broke a sweat like never before and the only thing going through my head was “JEEEZZZ am I glad this painful experience is over”.

The girl has balls though, because she stated that “she never had to work as hard as this while having sex ever before!”. I didn’t answer that statement and just laughed ;)

This fun experience is one I just had to share with you as I am looking back now and laughing my ass off myself right now. It just shows that there is a surprise underneath every bed sheet you pull up!

Now go out there and create your own amazing adventure, AND lets not ever mention this again ok!

THIS NEVER HAPPEND!!!

I am just joking, she is a very intelligent girl and i think she is very cool! When i recover i will go over there again but before we do anything i think the most intelligent way of dealing with this is to talk about the things we both like before we go ad it again…instead us working completely past eachother. That way we both will have more fun than we did now i think

It was an amazing experience!

Rick Dutch

Hey you! I just wanted to let you in on a small part of a conversation i had with “Charming Rogue, Johhny (Gianni) Soporno and Max Karlstedt” about Approach Anxiety!

Here you will see a piece of the convo we had on Facebook and it’s filled with interesting stuff so check it out and get enlightend!

Johnny Soporno:

Overcoming AA is a non-issue once you satisfy yourself that you are worthy. ‘Approach Anxiety’ is an artifact of crappy socialization and poor parenting. That said, virtually everyone suffers from it.

Our parents cautioned us about the dangers of talking to strangers – ignoring that ~80% of physical and sexual abuse is perpetrated by people KNOWN to the victim! Now, as adults, we must overcome the misconception that ’strangers/foreigners/others’ are to be avoided, both in ourselves, AND in the minds of others…

The other painful inhibition is the fear of feeling rejection. This is completely overwhelmed once you know that you ARE worthwhile, and therefore your introducing yourself to another, granting them the opportunity to express themselves to you, is truly a sincere compliment!

I haven’t been rejected since the early 90’s, when I recognized I wasn’t approaching women to get them to like me – I was approaching them to determine if they were interesting to me. In other words, I wasn’t looking to them to affirm I was cool-enough – I knew THAT already!- I was giving them a change to demonstrate that THEY were cool enough!

Charming Rogue:

I agree with this approach, Johnny. It’s pretty much what a guy has to consciously train themselves to get over the pain associated with experiencing it. Problem is that the “fear” is so completely irrational that it is hard for most guys to “rationally” get rid of it.

Johnny Soporno:

Removing phobias and limiting beliefs can be managed ‘The Hard Way’ through cognitive behaviour modification, OR ‘The Easy Way’ through radical hypnotherapy (which accomplishes the same thing, ultimately, of teaching ones’ ego that they confront/do that … Lees verderthing which frightens them, harmlessly)

Guys like Steve Piccus, Hypnotica, Jamie Smart, and the like are wizards with this… and I heartily recommend their work!

Max Karlstedt:

Yes Gianni, it’s about a paradigm shift in one’s head.

The funny thing with rejection is that the fear of rejection is always worse than the actual rejection itself. It’s usually never as painful as one usually imagines it to be.

Another thing to the paradigm shift is to realize that it’s NOT always about sex. For example, you approach a woman and she is mean to you, this isn’t always because she didn’t find u attractive, it could just mean she had a bad day, “she wasn’t in the food for it”, in other words…

Another example, do u think your friend is ‘rejecting’ u if he is pissed off because his girlfriend just left him when u called him? Nope, u understand the context, and that’s what You should apply as well when it comes to women.

All this has helped me more than I can describe.

Rick Dutch:

I see a lot of similarities in the things that Gianni and Max are saying and what i am personally going trough since about a year. The moment i took a different approach, as in, the moment i looked at the approach in a different way, was the moment i felt more comfortable with it. Looking back 3 years, i did an approach and qualified myself to a woman, therefore i was always concerned with “will she like me” which basically puts somewhat of a stress level up there.

Nowadays, i look at it this way, and this is what Gianni has stated before, “how can SHE be of any value to ME” so instead of me qualifying to them, i make them qualify to me. Which makes the whole approach totally different, as in “more fun” and almost like un wrapping a “Christmas present, you never know what you’re going to get, it actually doesn’t really matter since ripping off the paper is basically the coolest thing. Then when you see what you have gotten it doesn’t matter what it is as it has been giving to you so you can always appreciate it…some presents a little more than others”.

Now, approaching is actually FUN!

And that what Max said: “The approach is more frightening than the actual rejection”

SO TRUE!

 In my opinion because “ppl” (and myself in the past) look at the whole approach in a way where they should be qualifying themselves to get the woman attracted. This means you look at yourself as a product for an example, that you have to sell in order to get those “thumbs up” from people as if they are saying “you’re such a cool dude”.

This is understandable though, lots of people have experienced things in life where they never felt important or wanted and so they come from a place of scarcity instead of abundance. Creating an actual “abundance” will probably/most certainly help people get over their fear of rejection too.

I also think that the approach of many dating instructors i have seen on AA are not always the correct ones, no offense, i love you all

I have seen MANY “coaches” kicking their students in set etc. telling them: “APPROACH! APPROACH! APPROACH! That’s the only way to get comfortable with it because that’s how i did it!!!”

but in my opinion this just creates more stress and LESS successes as i have seen people go in set so completely uncomfortable that the set they are in pick up on this energy and become uncomfortable as well, they sometimes do give out their number…for whatever the reason…only to NOT pick up the phone when they get called because this uncomfortable feeling is now linked to the name of the guy calling them! And so…yet another reference of failure for the “PUA” which will add more feelings of discomfort on his next approach!

So yeah, Creating a wider arrange of references for success will, in my opinion do more good as “being comfortable” with approaching has to do with more factors than just “approaching”.

Like, I know i am one sexually attractive mofo! (because now i have enough references to back that thought up) add a different approach to the approach up to that and you got yourself one lean approaching machine!

And now I’m going to stop typing…damn…sometimes great posts just seem to come flying by like an “HB outofthescale” on a moped!

So, i hope you have enjoyed this small part of the conversation that was going on, this was basically the best part and i thought i should share this with you!

Talk soon,

Rick Dutch

Hey there you sexy thing you!!!  How has your week been?! Mine was F-ing AMAZING!!!

As I speak with a lot of people who are into “this stuff” I get to hear about their successes…and their “failures” (There is no such thing as failure, take what u can get out of it and make it your success!) And something that I get a lot is that people feel as if they hold an interview when they are talking to others and no real input and feedback to what they are saying…it’s as if the people they speak with are just their because they are polite and don’t walk off because of that but aren’t engaged in the conversation.

So today I would like to talk a little about “INVESTMENT”.

Like Adam Lyons’ explanation, and this is the short version “A Ferrari which you bought from money you have worked your entire life for is more valuable than the exact same Ferrari which you won in the Lottery…even if the one you bought is a 2^nd hand and has scratches on it”

So how can we translate this into something we can benefit from?

When YOU invest into a conversation, like preparing it, reading about how to hold a conversation, taking action and approaching a person, etc you are INVESTING into the conversation! This basically means that this conversation has “value” to you because you put effort into it. Now the person who you are talking to didn’t do anything for the conversation so therefore holds NO value to the interaction. Now if the conversation ends, for some reason, who do you think will feel the loss more…it’s the person who put more effort in it…YOU! So in order to make the conversation valuable to the other person as well you would like them to invest into it, because then it becomes more valuable to them…the bigger the investment…the bigger the value. And to make it even better and more specific…when the conversation becomes more valuable, YOU will become more valuable because that person invested into the conversation with YOU! (Do you see where I’m going with this?)

How do you make someone invest into the conversation with you:

You can do this by asking the right questions for an example, like, if you ask a girl “So how old are you?” she would answer her age…and that’s that! A bigger investment from your side and a smaller one from hers.

Now if you would ask a question where she would have to do a little more work before answering it, the investment would be a little bit bigger! So a more intelligent question to create more investment would be, “How old were you when you 1^st realized you wanted to become a … “ (whatever it is she does for work). You notice that to answer this question she has to dig a little bit into her memory before she finds the answer to your question, she has to “work” for it…for you! And so the investment from her side is a bit more than when she has to answer a “yes or no question”.

In order for her to actually FEEL committed to the conversation by having invested a lot into it, you would have to make her invest quite a bit more than just an answer or two logically. To guide the conversation there where you want it to go would take a bit of “calibration skills” as you would have to feel where it is going. Like I would start out a bit shallow, throwing out a couple of different “lines” to find out what interests her and from there on work my way in deeper and deeper until I’m at the point where I can ask really deep questions where she, by answering them, would make huge investments.

Questions for the beginning of a conversation could be:

“You look stylish, when did you 1^st find out that you were interested into fashion?”

 “Ah, you are wearing matching ear rings! you must have been good at the memory game when you were younger?” she answers and you take it further:

“what other games did you like to play back then…do you remember THIS game?! Yeah it was so much fun! (here you are creating rapport).

“ What things did you want to be when you grew up?”

“What cartoon character do you resemble? and why?”

“You look like a bad girl! Were you like a “good kid” when you were younger though?, would your parrents agree?”

These are pretty simple questions where the investment from her side is not that big but here it allows you to find out who she is a little bit and where to take it further on in the conversation. Now further on in the conversation when you are actually having the chance to take things a bit deeper, come up with more difficult and deeper questions like:

“What was your most memorable childhood experience and how has it impacted your outlook on life?”

“Have you ever found that talking to a stranger can really make you feel relieved in some way as you can say things, to me for an example, that you couldn’t say to one of your closer friends as you might be afraid they would hold it against you where I wouldn’t” (Basically here you are saying, tell me your personal stuff!) then you take it further by asking:

“What’s something you could tell me but couldn’t tell one of your close friends?”

As you see the last 2 questions would take a little more “thinking/investing” from her part especially a question like the last one, which can lead to you guys really growing closer to each other as sharing personal and private stuff like this creates a bond!

So I suggest that now, you start writing down a couple of questions for yourself, a couple easy ones, a couple medium ones and a couple that go really deep so that when you are in an actual conversation…it doesn’t die because YOU don’t know anything intriguing and interesting to ask! Don’t blame it on “her being boring” when the conversation ran dead…take full responsibility here for your own actions! You want to be the “Socially Intelligent” one…then YOU should be held responsible for having an interesting conversation or not.

Now go and create some interesting things to ask so the lady has an amazing time with you by actually having a superb conversation with an incredibly interesting guy she wouldn’t DARE flake on afterwards because…lets be real…don’t you think all your flakes might have to do with you guys not having had an interesting time enough…with YOU not being able to really connect and be more interesting than any other guy out there?! Hey, I’m just saying

Now go to work!

Rick Dutch.

Hey there! How was your weekend? I hope it was just as superb as mine and that you have learnt amazing lessons like I have! And let me tell you about a very important thing that I have learnt this weekend.

You know when something happens to you and you KNOW you should do things different next time as you have “learnt from it” and then you let it happen again…and again…and again…because you dont implement that what you have learnt and you don’t take action on it?! I had something like that this passed weekend, let me tell you about it.

I currently work in a small restaurant, I used to be a Chef for about 15 years, stuck between the 4 walls of several kitchens but recently I also crawl out of the kitchen and serve on people, which is an amazing learning experience for me as i engage in “Social Encounters” full on for a couple hours straight! I learnt a lot from this already and I’m sure I will keep on doing so as I take learning experiences from basically anything!

So, saturday, I was at work and we were chilling a bit behind the bar as we were waiting for our guests to come in and while sitting in the corner reading a book about coaching 2 lovely (read: hot) girls walked in. My other male colleague just stared at them and I could see them smiling at him, knowing exactly what was going on, and one of them spoke up and said, with a soft sigh “yeah…so we are here because we want to have dinner” smiling when she did so. My colleague went “ UHHHHMMMM…yeah…ok…”. I guess he was hypnotized by their beauty and caught off guard We didn’t really have space for them as all the seats were spoken for but he quickly recovered and sat them down and told them we needed the table again in 1 hour which was cool with them, they were really kind!

I took it from there and presented our menu to them. We talked a little bit and, making rapport etc. and we went into “flirting mode” quickly. One of them really caught my eye as she has one of the seven beauty signs “dark hair and blue eyes”, I couldn’t keep my eyes of her and our eye contact was intense.( i LOVE THAT) I received several IOI’s from both of them and I knew I was going to stir the conversation later on into the direction where I could go for the number…BUT…there were other guests coming in as well and I had a job to do so I went on, thinking I could do it later (do you feel it coming?). When they were finished eating I asked them to come with me and take a seat at the bar, where I would continue the conversation and go for the number…at least, that was MY plan. The second they were at the bar this basket of people opened itself up and within no time I was surrounded by people asking me questions and ordering etc. etc. etc. 

The girls paid and judging their body language they waited for me to say hi, told me they had to run off to a birthday party, waved…waited a couple of split seconds at the door…my hands were full…they smiled at me…waited another couple split secondsn(can you feel the tention!) knowing it was now or never…my hands were still full and my head went “FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK “…they said goodbye…and walked of…

I knew THERE AND THEN…I had to pull the trigger sooner…I saw they took one of our business cards before they went off so maybe…I will see them again soon…(the law of attraction, lol)

Thinking I have learnt my lesson right there and then for the day something similar happened in a bar dancing I was after work!!! Here in Holland we have a saying “A Donkey never bumps into the same rock twice” But this donkey did…(oh lord)

I was in set a couple times and making the pattented “Rick Dutch Sexual Eye Contact” all over the place then walked outside and passed this really cute thing, we made eye contact and smiled to each other. I started talking to her and we went into a real nice conversation. Shortly after I spotted those IOI’s again and I started doing KINO. She was really nice to talk to and had deep and sparkling brown eyes, those eyes you would drown in so easy and her voice just caught me as it was really tender and sweet. I stated my intentions from the start as I project my sexual energy trough eye contact and she was really into it. We talked about the fact that she was going to go out with me next time which she was really in to and then her friend came up…

I introduced myself and instantly they went into a conversation about something that was going on apparently. I saw one of my friends and didn’t want to make things awkward by “just standing there” and decided I was going to talk to my friend for a second and return shortly after to get her number…so I went…and so did they…as I saw them walk off…I saw ”the girl” looking back at me just before I saw them walk away, basically saw her head turn away as my head turned towards her…as if she was looking for a way to make contact before she left…but it was too late…I was too late…AGAIN!!!!

I saw this as an amazing learning experience and SWORE to take action next time and never let a girl walk away like that…ever…AGAIN!

Couple minutes later, when I was inside this beautiful blonde girl, stylish, nice smile, friendly face etc. walked passed me and our eyes locked! (As you might or might not have noticed, I do a lot with eye contact, lol). I don’t remember what I said to her or if I did say anything at all but the energy I got from her eye contact and her facial expressions were all the IOI’s I needed from her. I saw her walking out and I thought I should wait for her to walk back inside and initiate a conversation with her…but then the 2 learning experiences with my 2 other sets that night smacked my on the head! “NO! im not going to wait, I’m going out there!” and so I did.

I looked around and didn’t see her…”oh no…not again…” I walked almost outside of the bar’s terrace and looked around…she wasn’t there?! When I wanted to walk back in I spotted her talking to some friends and getting ready to head out. Apparently I walked right passed her. As I stood right in front of the “Wardrobe” I saw her coming over with her friends and again I engaged in one of my amazing eye contacts. I said “hi” and we started talking. I knew I had to be quick this time and get her number before any unforeseen event took her away from me!

And before I even thought of going for it…”a cock block” came into the conversation (Is this going to happen to me AGAIN?!?!). The guy that came bursting into my set knew her from school where they went like 10 years back so they had a lot of interesting things to talk about…IF the guy had any conversational skills…HA! “Now I need to take action” I thought to myself and while watching her getting more uncomfortable with the silences between her old classmate and herself I went for it.

I grabbed her arm and asked something about her jewelry (don’t be hating, it was the 1^st thing that popped into my mind! lol). I slowly moved away from her friends as I wanted to have her full attention and she kindly followed my every move. She started qualifying herself by telling she was a “dancer” and that she had nice legs, which I then had to feel for myself of course I asked her where she was from and connected with her more when she named her town and I used my knowledge to talk about a club that they have there. She was more engaged into the conversation by that and I told her we should go to 1 of the 70’s/80’s classics party’s they organize so I could dress into my old school pimp suit. She was cool with the idea and I asked her…”ok so how are we going to stay in touch?” She asked me if I had “Hyves or Facebook”. She told me to take her name and look her up there, I told her it was fine…but I wasn’t satisfied with that! I wanted to have her number so we can make our conversation more personal. I grabbed my phone and said “ok, I’m going to put it into my notes…if I can figure out how that works (as if I don’t know how to do that, oh sneaky me!) I then acted as if I had no clue where to put it and asked her “ok, so, like any normal person…don’t you have a phone number instead?” She gave me her number and I agreed on calling her the next day (Sunday night) for us to have a proper conversation and so that I could find out if she was interesting in any way.

The good thing that night was that, after 2 sets that walked out on me i learnt from the experience, decided i would never let anything happen like that again, implemented that into my system, took action in the next set and accomplished my mission!

I hear people in the same situations saying “damn, it sucked tonight, i didn’t do anything! i didn’t approach! i let the set walk out on me” and if you recognise this with your self…maybe look at it in a different way, like me for an example…”what have i learnt today from the mistakes i made”

I have learnt that i should pull the trigger faster before “something happens” that makes me loose the set! So instead of beating myself over the fact i lost 2 sets, i pat myself on the shoulder for owning the other set!

SO I HAD A HUGE SUCCESSFULL EVENING!!! 

So, hopefully you have learnt something as well by reading this: Look at what you have learnt and turn everything into a success and…TAKE ACTION…NOW!!!

Rick Dutch.

Hey, it has been a while since i wrote something here, i actualy got told by 1 of my GF’s i am taking to long (Thanx sweety). But let me tell you, it’s not because im not doing anything, it actualy is because im so busy with all of this!!! I am going out and training myself a lot, reading and writing like a madman and all that. I do have something cool i want to share with you, it’s my 1st lay report on this BLOG. I suggest you read it very carefully and place yourself in my shoes…it will be an amazing ride   have fun!

I went to this “bar dancing” with a guy a just met for a “sarge”, it was the 1^st time we met so we sat down and had a drink and just got to know eachother a bit. He told me what he was working on and I explained how I deal with things. We walked in and I immediately started looking around making eye contact with the women there and started “pre – opening” all kinds of people. I received this “sensual look” from this girl and when I walked passed her I looked her deep in her eyes and said “hi”. I walked on and did a couple of similar things, there were a couple of real cute girls there.

Later on my new friend asked me “I don’t see you opening people and starting conversations, how come?” I explained the “pre opening” concept to him and the concept of “instant sexual attraction”. I do a lot with my eyes and trust my “gut feeling” when I receive an intense and sensual look back from a lady because then I know it’s on, i go over to her and I run my game, it’s just something I am testing and perfecting for myself at the moment.

Right after I explained to him that I was actually doing a whole lot, without him noticing it, we went outside for some fresh air. We were standing there and the girl I said hi to when I went in walked passed us…and our eyes locked. She stopped walking, gave me the hottest look ever and softly smiled at me. She was with a male colleague of her (found this out later on) and they wanted to walk on but I grabbed her arm and asked her “where do you think your going?”. We started talking and from the start I created a huge sexual tension between us. She was touching me a lot, giving KINO a whole new meaning and I could see her male colleague was jealous as hell. His body language was so uncomfortable and could read his facial expressions, which was really difficult as the poor guy had his face burnt beyond anything I have ever seen personally. Big props for that guy to go out and have fun in a public place like the one we were at, as I know people were looking at him a lot etc. it must have made him uncomfortable but still he was there and having fun! (the guy was setting a great example).

He was all over the girl and tried his best to hold her, touch her, say things like “you are going home with me tonight” etc. Little did he know…I had other plans We talked a bit and flirted a lot as my new friend tried to keep “the colleague” occupied. (thanx for that bro) After a while I walked inside and not long after she came In as well, I felt her walking by as she took KINO to a whole new level and i felt her hand on my back and ass. ;)

I decided I wanted to have her for a little private time, I walked over to her, grabbed her hand and told her to come outside with me (dominance) so we could talk a little bit (uh huh…) We sat down next to each other, talked about things and I found out she was a Police Officer. The KINO escalation kicked in hardcore, basically I talked with her with an amazing sexual look in my eyes and I noticed she got turned on by this incredibly! I noticed that she started to breathe heavily, her pupils were dilated and she couldn’t stop touching me. She came closer and closer to me and I was just waiting for her to “go out of control”…and she did, she spontaneously kissed me and the act shocked herself, she pulled back and apologized to me as I just kept staring at her with this intense look on my face. She started talking again…I put my finger on her lips, told her she talked to much, pulled her towards me and started kissing her. She was actually really good at it, she has nice soft lips like me.

We exchanged numbers and right after I could see her colleague watching us, and he wasn’t enjoying himself lol. They left after a couple of minutes and I told her I was going to call her for a date. I always tell them I’m going to call them and when I’m going to do so, this way they have something to look forward to and another fun thing I do is when putting my name in their phone (I take their phones and put my name in myself most of the time) I put in something like “Mr. Amazing, Sexy Bald Guy, Mr. Soft Lips” anything that we discussed and that I joked about. This way when their phone rings and they see the “unusual name” in their display, they get a huge smile on their face because it’s something different then a regular name.

1^st I texted her saying “cancel your plans for tomorrow night, I’m in your neighborhood then”. Then I got back that she actually did so. I got myself a bottle of Pink Wine and drove over to her town. I did so because I wanted to go to her place, there she would be more comfortable and I could seduce her there in a place that is known to her and that has a bed nearby. We talked for a long time about this and that, drank the wine and I started KINO escalating. She turned on a movie and turned down the lights, I crawled up against her and after 2 seconds we were kissing again. I told her to stop doing so because I was “a hungry lion ready to bite her” and I did…softly, in her neck, her face, her arms, just raising sexual tension. It didn’t take long and she jumped on my lap and started grinding on me. After a while I pushed her away and the whole game started over again. She asked me “what is it that you want from me?” I asked her…”is that a trick question!” and she told me that tonight “nothing was going to happen. (yeah right, not with The Dutch at your place baby, lol).

After a while she was rubbing with her hand on my abs and I pushed her hand down into my pants! She started stroking me etc and I started doing the same to her. I told her to lie down on her sofa and sat right next to her, opened my pants for her as I thought she was taking way to long. We messed around for a while and then she told me “there are 2 things we can do…either stop…or go to the bed room” I grabbed her, pulled Little Dutch out and in reaction she undressed herself. And damn the girl had amazing boobs. The energy was amazingly sexual and i could feel it was going to be an amazing night for the both of us.

We went to her bedroom and I ran my sexual skills on her, made her cum a couple of times and now comes the best thing, for her. As I’m really working on sexual skills I ran my sexperience on her and made her squirt 9 times! Her bed was 1 wet pool of female cum, she didn’t know what happened to her and was amazed by the experience. Her body was trembling all over and I sexed her up some more. After we were done, she told me she was so happy that she had sex with me and said “jeez, you really know what you are doing” which kinda stroked my ego She couldn’t stop smiling and going “wow! OMG my bed!!! Oh I loved this! what did you do to me?!…wow!”

I went off and received a text message when driving home telling me how much she liked the evening. I ran through the whole “pickup” and could see how she really liked the entire thing. We had a cool and sexually tensed night in the bar, at her place we had an amazing conversation topped off with amazing sex…what else could a woman want, an incredible sexperience with a cool guy like me…nothing I’ll tell you

Through the whole pickup I displayed things like “dominance, instant sexual tension, conversational skills and amazing sexual skills” I ran through several “story telling techniques” where I conveyed “being a High value guy” being “sexually active and open”, that “I won’t get weird after sex” and that “I’m not looking for a GF/steady relationship”. I set a huge sexual frame from the start and she was into all of this as she agreed on everything basically. I made her night and I’m sure I will meet her again as I took some time to build comfort with her as well.

Why did I post this Lay Rapport? Usually I’m not really a fan of writing these but as I thought about the whole process I noticed that I actually used a lot of the things I wrote about in earlier posts so now you know that I not only talk the talk but also walk the walk! Read my previous posts about “living an attractive lifestyle and the power of eye contact and facial expressions” for an example, I didn’t use any weird canned material, I used everything that’s truly ME…and it created HUGE attraction.

Hopefully this has inspired you to act on things and to get out there and make a couple of ladies really happy by adding value to their lives…instead of taking it…and this is something I would like for you to think about.

Greets,

Rick Dutch.

Hey there, how are things these days! Over here in Holland it is getting cold and rainy…and im a person that absolutely LOVES warm weather, the sun…beaches…cocktails…hmmm yeah i cant wait untill spring time Never the less, i am pretty much in control of my state so i am still anxious to face the many challenges that are awaiting me…even though it’s cold and wet…very wet!

How are you facing your challenges? are you facing and overcomming them or are you running from them, trying to hide from the pain that you know you will feel soon…as you know that you are just stalling the inevitable.

“you can run but you can’t hide”

Well,  maybe you DO want to face your challenge’s but you have no clue of how to climb that mountain. Maybe you would like some help with it?

I want to offer this help to you!

As the value giving person that i am i would like to give you some free “Coaching Sessions” so that we can get you straight through that amazing goal you always wanted to achieve but never seemed to have the energy for to achieve on your own.

Who can applie for this? If you are serious about achieving your goals, if you are serious about making changes in your life and doing what it takes to get there, IF…YOU…THINK you are dedicated enough to take action and literally DO SOMETHING that will lead you to a more passionate life!!!  Than please, don’t hesitate and contact me.

If you are interested, email me at rickdutch@gmail.com and we will take it from there!

So, again, if you are dedicated, like a lot of people are, you can change your life, like a lot of people already have!

Don’t hesitate, don’t let your “Limiting beliefs” stop you! You miss 100% of the shots you DON’T take!!! (Wayne Gretzky)

Contact me!

Rick Dutch.

Hey there my friend! It has been a short while since I kept you updated but I’m SO very busy it’s not even funny J (well it is actually). I received several questions from readers and people around me which I would like to put up here so you also will have a bigger impression of me, how I look at things and the values and purposes that I live by! Here goes:

So, why did you put up this BLOG, what’s your purpose with it?

Well, I put this up so people can maybe get inspired to take some action and go out to shape up their lives a bit. I want people to see what I am going trough so they can relate to it and see that they are not “the only one” and I want them to see my growth. I won’t write huge and difficult posts on here as I want ALL people to be able to read my posts and feel related to what I write. So everything here is real and simple.  

This one is interesting

Based on the movie “The 40 year old virgin”, If a guy who lives in those circumstances and with that kind of mindset comes to you for help, what are the chances of him becoming a “Pickup Artist” and how long of an intensive training would he have to go through?

Haha, yeah well, this question is not so easy to answer “by me”, we would have to ask that person the following question, “how fast are you going to implement everything into your system?”. That anyone can become great in the “Social Arts” is a fact! Look at all the big guys in the scene who used to be complete “nerds” back in the days!? I can teach him a whole lot and I will be able to give him A LOT of things to think about but that person will actually have to implement everything and based on his personal successes he will do this fast…or take more time. I have seen guys shooting up really fast and I have seen some that took more time to get to the next level…and yes…unfortunately…I also see guys that are still there where they have started off in the beginning, they just don’t want to or aren’t able to push themselves further because of “possible personal reasons”.

 Working with “Personal Self Development” what are you currently “working on” when it comes to yourself?

Well, at the moment I am doing a lot of reading, I’m currently plowing through several books about “Coaching, Social Psychology and Human Nature”. I have this hunger for knowledge and I go through anything that will help me grow and help others on a deeper level.

 To overcome “approach anxiety”, what would be more important, Confidence or Skill?

In my opinion confidence would be more important here, you don’t need any skills to “approach” another person, you just need to go over there and start an interaction with them, which you will do when you are confident. However, how do you gain confidence? By practicing “A SKILL”, Confidence is something that comes when you are certain about yourself, about who you are…about your skills. So a good advice here would probably be “Go and practice a certain skill to get confident in whatever it is that you want to do”. (If you need help with this, you can always contact me: rickdutch@gmail.com)

Do affirmations really work?

Well, honestly…I’m not really sure but I used to do A LOT of affirmations or “incantations” which is another version of it. I got more confidence and yes I implemented a whole new belief system into my brain but I did a complete internal make over! Let me explain this a bit deeper. I didn’t only do the affirmations, I also went out there ON MY OWN (this will boost your confidence) I implemented things I learnt FAST, I read A LOT, i basically did everything I could to insert a whole new belief into my head so the whole combination of everything I did worked…yeah definitely! Affirmations and Incantations are being used since forever! The Roman army back in the days used them, even now the U.S. army is famous for the using following affirmation “yet do I walk in the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil…etc.” So yeah I think the power of affirmations is worldwide known and something I suggest everyone should work with if they want to speed up the implementation of a new belief system.

Body language, facial expressions and vocal intonations represent over 75% of our communication, do you think we are able to “seduce” a person without speaking the same language?

YES! I don’t “think” but I “know” this for a fact I wrote about my experiences in this matter and already post it. But I would like to point out a certain exercise anyways you can try to test this: “When you walk on the street or when you are in any public place basically, you scan or look around and try to make eye contact with someone of your liking. Then when your eyes lock into each other I would like you to think you are making passionate love to that person…now see what happens ” I went into this a bit deeper in my article about “The Power of Eye contact & facial expressions”

So, this was part 1 of the “Q & A” and I will post the 2^nd part when u guys send me more questions (I got a couple already but I would like for you to send me some more) Hopefully this have given you some food for thought.

See you soon my friend! 

Rick Dutch.